One is that I’m internally wired to think that I should be able to do everything, by myself, all the time. This might relate to being responsible, independent, or self-sufficient. These are good attributes, up to a point. Or this might relate to being stubborn. Stubbornness, too, can be a good thing, up to a point. The reality is, we all need help sometimes and we shouldn’t let stubbornness, pride, or other things get in the way of asking.
Another reason that I have trouble asking for help is that I want things done the way I want them done, when I want them done. I think that the way I do things is the best way. After all, if it wasn’t the best way I wouldn’t do it that way. It’s the old “If you want it done right, you have to do it yourself.” The reality is, rarely is there one best way to do anything. The important thing is the result—what was done, not how it was done.
I suggest that when you need help, ask. Don’t let things get in the way. When you ask, communicate clearly the result you want, but leave it up to the person helping you to determine the best way for him or her. If a deadline is necessary, give it. Otherwise ask the person when he or she can complete it. These techniques can be used in our professional and personal lives.