Do you have trouble with people wanting to put you in a box and label it with who they think you should be? I do. I always have.
I am one of those women who never wanted children. I just didn’t. I remember as a very young child getting a baby doll from my grandmother. It was one of the first ones that you could feed a bottle of water to and in a little while it would “wet” its diaper. I dressed it, fed it a bottle, pretended to feed it food, changed the diaper, changed the other clothes because they were wet, and put the doll to bed. I remember thinking, “That was boring!” And yet I could play with other toys, especially stuffed animals, for hours.
I hoped that my brothers would have children, because I thought being an aunt would be really cool. (It is!) I also thought being a grandmother would be fun, as long as I did not have to go through the mother step first. That worked, too, because it just happened that my husband had children that were almost grown when we married. And being a grandmother is fun. And I am still glad I did not go through the mother step.
When we are very certain about what we want, or do not want, it is important that we stick to that even if family, friends, and society think that they know what is best for us. (There are exceptions, of course. We cannot harm others. We cannot expect others to take responsibility for us; we are responsible for ourselves.)
If someone is trying to put you in a “box” that does not fit you, say something. Do something. Do not calmly enter the box and let others tape you in and label you. It is your life. It is your responsibility to decide who you are and live accordingly.
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