Susan L. Farrell, Author

Forced Choices, Forced Changes


Sometimes we are forced into making choices that we don’t want to make. Usually this results in changes that we don’t want. Although I believe that we always have a choice, sometimes it seems as though none of the choices are good. Occasionally, however, the resultant changes can be positive, at least in the long-term.

As an example, I have been forced into the choice of changing my website or not having a website. I have been using the same website designer firm for years. I really like the work and service that the people provide. A few months ago, they informed me that they were changing their servers and platform and all websites needed to be redone.

If this had happened 2-3 years ago, I would have been excited at the prospect of a newly designed website. If this had happened 2-3 years from now, I might have decided that I was ready for full retirement and didn’t need a website anymore. Instead, it came in the middle. I still needed a website, but I really didn’t want to invest the money and time into a new one.

I did a little investigating into using someone else or going with a do-it-yourself website. Both would still involve investing time and money that I didn’t want to invest. If I was going to have a new website, I decided going with people I liked and trusted would be the best.

The new website is live. I’m still trying to figure out how to use it and deal with a few glitches. There’s still work I need to do on it.

A new website has forced other choices. Do I keep the same newsletter or redesign that, too, so it coordinates with the new look of the website? Do I leave the blogs the same, or go through each to correct for odd things that happened during the transfer, such as lost pictures? Do I spend time marketing the new website to attract attention and hopefully sell more books or not? Each choice will impact my monetary and time investments.

I will admit, however, that the new website does look better than the old. It looks newer, fresher. It is supposed to be better from a search standpoint. Maybe I will get more book sales from it, which is the point of me having a website after all.

I know that in the big scheme of life, my new website is a small issue. People are faced with much more difficult choices and changes every day. I’m using it as an example, however, in the hopes that it might remind you that sometimes there can be positive outcomes from forced choices and changes. I also want to use it as a reminder that even if we feel forced to make a choice, we always have choices. If nothing else, choosing to do nothing is still a choice.

Are there choices that you have been forced to make? Did something good come out of it at least? Are there choices that you feel like you are being forced to make now? Can you see some good come of it eventually?

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